A primary concern for any parent divorcing or separating is the effect this has on any children in the relationship.
It’s clearly an unsettling time for all concerned but possibly more so for those witnessing the breakdown of their parents’ relationship. With more than 100,000 couples filing for divorce each year, one in three children is likely to experience parental separation before the age of 16, according to the Family Mediators Association.
Going to court can sometimes polarise parents creating additional tensions. Children inevitably feel these. Mediation is a more informal way to resolve the conflicts and disputes that can arise.
In particular it can be a very useful forum to address issues relating to children. These are so often driven by emotional factors, which the Family Court is unable to resolve.
Due to the communication involved in the mediation process relationships are often better preserved. This gives an opportunity for separating parents to continue to work together in the future for the benefit of their children.
At Merrick, our focus is on resolving disputes as quickly and cheaply as possible.
Most agreements need some give and take from both sides. Even so an agreed outcome is almost always preferable to the imposition of a solution by a judge.
Our job is to empower our clients, so they understand the impact of any compromises and are on an equal footing with their ex, when they need it most.
We strongly recommend that legal advice is obtained before entering mediation to give it the best chance of success.
We certainly would not advise anybody to enter such a difficult and far-reaching process on an uninformed basis. Believing that mediation is a quick-fix, cheap option to end a relationship without understanding the legal ramifications is not helpful and can often have unintended consequences.
Each individual set of circumstances are different. Only after listening and understanding those circumstances will we advise a client whether or not their case is suitable for mediation. If it is, and mediation is their preferred option, we will make the appropriate referral.
Here are some important points about the mediation process:
Mediation is voluntary for both parties.
If both parties agree to it, the impartial mediator facilitates negotiation and has no vested interest in the outcome.
Whilst being flexible to the needs of each party, the mediator is in charge of the process ensuring that sessions have focus and the whole process is going somewhere.
Mediation is confidential, except where there are any concerns of risk of harm to a child or vulnerable adult. Details of the mediation will not be referred to in evidence in any court proceedings about the same issues.
Typically, more than one session is needed to reach an outcome to stand the test of time and deal with underlying issues of conflict.
The decision-making rests with the participants. If an agreement is reached it is presented to the court for approval. This isn’t simply for rubber-stamping. The judge will consider the reasonableness of the terms proposed in all the relevant circumstances.
If, unfortunately, a negotiated settlement does not prove possible, we will support clients through the court process.
Family law is complex and each set of circumstances unique. Whether you are fact finding or have already made a decision, do seek properly informed legal advice.
More from Merrick about children in divorce here. Useful information from the Family Mediation Council here.
19.02.2018
Posted on January 3, 2018 by Merrick Solicitors - FINANCES
It’s not unusual in relationships that are breaking down for one party to suspect the other of wrongdoing.
That may relate to the suspicion of adultery, concealment of financial assets or more general concerns about behaviour affecting the marriage.
It may be tempting for a spouse to search for evidence to support their feelings that all is not right. Living under the same roof it may be all too easy to access private documents belonging to your spouse to gain certainty.
Stop.
The fact you are married does not entitle you to do this and the possibility the documents are easily accessible is not an excuse.
A recent case in Switzerland serves as warning of the potential ramifications of accessing a spouse’s private emails, or any other private documents.
In this case the wife, who was not named, logged on to her husband’s new, second email account. She used a password she already knew as the couple share
d passwords, or noted them down next to their computer.
The wife discovered the partner had been having various extramarital affairs. She subsequently confronted him about this, and the couple separated.
The matter came to the attention of the authorities and the wife was charged with unauthorised intrusion into her husband’s data. She was convicted and given a hefty fine.
On appeal the conviction was upheld, although the fine was reduced because she only had to “exploit her husband’s carelessness” and thus exert “minimal criminal energy” to gain access to the emails.
The case serves as a sage reminder to husbands and wives in England & Wales that they too are not entitled to freely access their spouse’s private documents, including emails. The issue was dealt with in 2010 by the Court of Appeal in London in the Imerman case. In this instance the more common situation of one spouse believing the other is hiding financial assets from the court was the issue.
Here, the wife feared her husband would conceal his assets in divorce proceedings, and therefore obtained financial documents belonging to him from a computer in an office he shared with her brothers.
The Court of Appeal held she had to return the documents and not retain copies. She was also not allowed to use any information she had gained from them within the divorce proceedings.
In this case the wife did not suffer any criminal penalty for her actions. However, in his judgment, Lord Neuberger, said: “the surreptitious removal of papers may, depending of course upon the circumstances, involve offences such as theft or burglary”.
He went on: “But where, as in this case, information is surreptitiously downloaded from a computer, there may also be criminal offences under the Computer Misuse Act 1990 and the Data Protection Act 1998.”
In other words, a spouse in this country could face a similar fate to the wife in Switzerland.
Further to this, said Lord Neuberger, the spouse whose documents had been taken could sue the ‘guilty’ spouse for breach of confidence. This could result in the ‘guilty’ spouse being ordered to pay damages.
If you fear a spouse is going to conceal assets, the law offers some protection.
In any financial remedy proceedings both parties are under a duty to make full disclosure of their means to the court and the other party. If you believe that your spouse has not done so, then you should take up the matter with the court through your legal representative.
The court can order specific disclosure, and can even assume they own undisclosed assets, if it believes the truth has not been told.
So, as we approach what the media has in recent years termed ‘Divorce Day’, remember the simple rule is, don’t be tempted to access private emails or documents belonging to your spouse whatever your suspicions. Instead, rather than risk later action against you, seek legal advice.
For professional legal advice contact one of our solicitors on 0161 838 5410.
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03.01.2018
Posted on September 1, 2017 by Merrick Solicitors - FINANCES
News and gossip columns of late have been rife with stories of celebrity divorces, separations and possible reconciliations, the most recent being that of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie (‘Brangelina’). The latest rumours suggest they may be attempting reconciliation. Of course, their proceedings are being conducted in Los Angeles but it has caused us to ponder the issues they would need to address in these circumstances if they were getting divorced here in England & Wales.
The first question must be: How can the divorce process be stopped once commenced? The answer very much depends on what stage the proceedings have reached when the decision to reconcile is taken.
At this juncture, we must pause to dispel a couple of family law myths repeatedly promoted by the media: 1. the pronouncement of a decree nisi does NOT bestow divorce; and 2. there is no such a thing as a ‘quickie divorce’; fast as he was in his day, not even Ryan Giggs can avoid the prescribed minimum period of six weeks and one day which has to pass AFTER a decree nisi pronouncement BEFORE decree absolute can be granted. So, it is, that the decree absolute is the last part of the divorce procedure and it is this decree (NOT the decree nisi) that brings a marriage to an end.
Therefore, if the decision to reconcile is made BEFORE decree absolute has been granted there is no need to take any action to stop the divorce in the event of reconciliation. The court will not advance the proceedings unless one of the parties (usually the petitioner) takes the necessary steps to proceed with it.
AFTER the decree absolute has been granted, save for a procedural irregularity, it cannot be set aside and it is then too late to avoid divorce.
If the reconciliation proves to be successful can the proceedings be withdrawn? Once again, timing is everything.
If the decree nisi is yet to be pronounced then the parties can apply by consent to have the divorce petition dismissed. Once done it is as if the proceedings had never been issued.
If the decree nisi has already been pronounced then it is not quite so simple, as the parties will also need to ensure the decree nisi is rescinded.
There is a little-used provision in the law that enables the court to adjourn divorce proceedings for such period as it thinks fit if at any stage it appears there is a reasonable prospect of reconciliation and so enable those attempts to be made. This might be useful in defended proceedings which in practice are rare but occur when a divorce petition is issued and either the other party does not accept the marriage has irretrievably broken down (see our previous post Owens v Owens – a child’s perspective) or does not accept the grounds upon which the petition is based. However, most divorce petitions issued today proceed on an undefended basis.
Should the proceedings be withdrawn in these circumstances? In brief, to avoid any bar to the issue of future divorce proceedings the existing proceedings should be withdrawn. Failing that, if you sadly find yourself once again sat across the desk from a divorce lawyer you must remember to tell them about the previous proceedings.
What if the reconciliation is not successful; does any period of resumed cohabitation affect pre-existing divorce proceedings? The six-month rule applies to all five grounds currently available to any party seeking to prove an irretrievable breakdown of their marriage.
Cohabitation for more than six months after learning of an act of adultery is assumed acceptance and it can no longer be relied on for the purpose of obtaining a divorce. Any period of cohabitation not exceeding six months will be disregarded.
A particular act of unreasonable behaviour can be relied on as long as you do not live with your spouse as man and wife for more than six months after it occurred. This does not, however, prevent the court from looking at the history of your marriage and the cumulative effect of conduct over time.
As for desertion, two years’ separation with consent or five years’ separation, periods of cohabitation of less than six months will not be taken into account, but cannot be counted as part of the period of desertion or separation. Periods of cohabitation in excess of six months serve to break the continuity of the separation.
Finally, how does reconciliation affect any financial application that may have been issued within the divorce proceedings? The simple answer is that dismissal of the divorce proceedings will also serve to dismiss any associated application for financial remedy and frustrate the effectiveness of any final financial order that has been made.
So what of Brangelina? It now looks like the delay in their divorce may in fact be due to complications relating to their financial settlement. If this is true, then perhaps the pre-nuptial agreement they reportedly entered into before they married did not cover every eventuality – a topic for another post on another day perhaps!
The above is only a brief summary of the relevant law. For detailed legal advice on any of the issues raised in this post we recommend you consult with one of our specialist family lawyers on 0161 838 5410 – it’s always good to talk!
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01.09.2017
